Thursday, October 14, 2010

Making Hard Decisions

I was visiting over at The Faith Barista and I was awed by her discussion on making hard decisions.  Earlier this week I spoke about a period of sadness I am experiencing.  This sadness is fueled by a desire to make a choice.

When I am tormented by a decision it is because one of the choices agitates something I value.  I am tortured with the thought of valuing happiness (presumed happiness) over commitment.  I have had this discussion with dear and gracious friends who shed light and warmth on this for me.  At the end of the conversation I am faced with the question, "What are you going to do?".  Each time my throat tightens and I want to say, "I don't want to do anything."  Yet in the back of my mind there is a voice questioning this lack of action.  This voice urges me to think that there is something wrong with not acting and making decisions.

You have to understand that I have always enjoyed making decisions and following them through no matter how impossible.  I have done things that people told me I couldn't do or that would scare most people.  This is due to my willingness to just jump in, pick a side, and move forward.  So this place of in-action and indecision is new for me.

I am beginning to realize that this is where God might want me  to be.  After reading The Faith Barista's post I realized that God wants complete reliance on him.  Not on my ability to get the job done, make decisions in a flash or stick to the plan.  God wants me to rely on his grace to forgive and his word to guide.  It feels like I am opening my eyes for the first time in this area.  Like opening your eyes for the first time on a bright morning it stings a little.  It may take some time to get used to just waiting for God to speak or move in our lives.  My inability to make a decision is God's way of starting his job in this area of my life.


Nikole Hahn said...

I'm only getting a slice of your life from this blog and so it's hard to determine from it if indecision is a good thing or not.

Of course, isn't that an example of indecision?

Bonnie Gray said...

Hey Mrtyle, THANK YOU for pouring this shot of of faith in the jam! I was pleasantly to be SURPRISED when you showed us indecision can very well be God's vehicle of increasing our faith! Boy, it really changes my perspective because I find I can be very indecisive, esp. on the important stuff!

Crystal said...

I loved your post. GOd is constantly reminding me that HE is all I need; that HE is who I need to cast my cares on; and that it his HIS plan that I must obey and follow. Great post!


Sheryl said...

I love " . . . this is where God might want me to be." Wow! I tend to think I'm supposed to know and do, but being in this place of indecision seems to be a great vehicle for getting me to go deeper with God. Thanks for the reminder.

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